I really appreciate the depth of this advice, thanks for going into such detail. Hard agreement on both people needing compassion in this situation, and that you can't (and shouldn't) expect them to go at the same pace.
She is likely more concerned for the child than him. The young children of parents with alcohol abuse disorder are the most damaged and the most ignored. Everyone wants to get the parent/guardian in rehab but what about therapy for the child? I grew up surrounded by alcohol abuse. Thirty-three percent to 40% of children affected by parental alcohol problems develop a substance- related disorder themselves. When these children become adults, 50% struggle with depression. Growing up with alcoholic parents is like a lottery jackpot, each day adds up. Some kids win. Some lose big. I hope you can stay sober for the child involved. I hope the child is okay.
This is great advice. Newly sober friends act like they want a blue ribbon just because they stopped. How can anyone trust they will stay sober? And 17 days, he wants a trophy? His wife must be furious.
Thank you, Peter, and I’m glad you’re finding sober people here. It is hard, but connecting with people who understand and have been there makes the road significantly easier. Stay in touch!
I really appreciate the depth of this advice, thanks for going into such detail. Hard agreement on both people needing compassion in this situation, and that you can't (and shouldn't) expect them to go at the same pace.
Thank you!
Good advice. I was taught that it took a lifetime for my family to learn not to trust me, I couldn't expect them to unlearn that overnight.
She is likely more concerned for the child than him. The young children of parents with alcohol abuse disorder are the most damaged and the most ignored. Everyone wants to get the parent/guardian in rehab but what about therapy for the child? I grew up surrounded by alcohol abuse. Thirty-three percent to 40% of children affected by parental alcohol problems develop a substance- related disorder themselves. When these children become adults, 50% struggle with depression. Growing up with alcoholic parents is like a lottery jackpot, each day adds up. Some kids win. Some lose big. I hope you can stay sober for the child involved. I hope the child is okay.
This is great advice. Newly sober friends act like they want a blue ribbon just because they stopped. How can anyone trust they will stay sober? And 17 days, he wants a trophy? His wife must be furious.
Thank you, Peter, and I’m glad you’re finding sober people here. It is hard, but connecting with people who understand and have been there makes the road significantly easier. Stay in touch!