#advice

Is relapse always a part of recovery?

The inaccurate truth of recovery slogans and how to get out of cartoon quicksand.

Jun 26 •

How do I stay sober on vacation with my wine-loving friends?

You're allowed to poop out of parties.

Jun 19 •

Old-timers in AA imply I don't "qualify"

The only desire for membership is a desire to stop drinking. If you understand that, you understand the Program better than your naysayers do.

May 22 •

How can I talk to a heavy drinker and chaos agent without losing my mind?

When someone is convinced that everyone else is to blame for their problems, there can be more value in asking questions than stating facts.

May 8 •

Is there life after AA?

You may not need to attend Alcoholics Anonymous forever, but maintaining a support system is never a bad idea.

Apr 17 •

My friend quit drinking again, but things aren't right between us

Part of getting sober is being accountable to people you hurt when you were drinking.

Apr 3 •

Did getting sober make your life more manageable?

I got a reputation on campus for being a problem drinker. I quit, but I'm still struggling. What's the upside?

Mar 20 •

Do ultimatums work?

Does quitting drinking or drugs "for someone else" last?

Mar 13 •

Finding Booze in All The Wrong Places

Or, why you should be a cactus

Feb 27 •

Do you ever stop counting?

At what point do you just accept that you don't drink anymore and stop keeping track of how long it has been since you did?

Feb 13 •

Booze Hound Baby, Naive Lady

My friend started dating someone newly sober with a history of relapsing. She doesn't think it's anything to worry about. I do.

Jan 30 •

How do I talk to my 14 year old daughter about drinking and drugs?

I don't want to promote the Just Say No ideology I grew up with, but I don't want to allow dangerous behavior, either.

Jan 16 •

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